all about groups…

Groups
Gorgeous gown isn’t it? It is one of Virtual Diva’s Group Gifts...and that is what am going to talk about today groups and group fees ~ remember this is strictly my own opinion though I have asked others how they feel and some defended a store’s right to put whatever amount for their group, others felt that anything above 300L was excessive…am not going to point out any excessive group fee as it has always been said if you do not like the group fee you are not obliged to join ~ just expressing my dismay to see group fee’s raised to triple their amount during Advent and wondering seriously why…several years ago I encountered that dilemma with a group fee and just shrugged my shoulders that yes I should have possibly joined the group earlier yet I was not about to pay 1,000 group fee to receive possibly a few unique gifts that I could wait and make note to buy in the store at a later time…it is the store owner’s right to set whatever amount of group fee they want either to become exclusive or keep out the spammers ♥ I do understand that as others agreed ~ am not sure how some feel paying a fee with absolutely no benefits at all ~ most groups are very generous with the gifts and worth each linden ~ then some groups have no group fee and their gifts are also top notch like Virtual Diva, for example, looking over at my 60 groups for the most part the group fees do flucuate from high to free ~ and for some of the groups there are no fee’s, no gifts just to inform where sales or where events will be held ♥  just a reminder if you do quit a group that has a fee either accidently like I have done on a couple of ocassions hehehe you will have to pay the group fee again no excuses ♥  that can get costly so be very cautious in leaving a group, which is another reason some store owners will put on a hefty group fee to prevent people just joining during the Advent season and leaving and that makes sense to a point for me just not upping the group fee to such an extreme it makes you wonder is it truly worth your lindens to even join…am curious what you all think on the subject of group fees ~ yesterday the topic got a really nice comment that will share in part because it was so well written:

“No, a designer doesn’t owe us staying in Second Life. They don’t owe us in-depth details of their personal life or why they are stepping back – we all have had to step back for a bit to concentrate on real life. No one gets upset at that and we applaud them for the decision to re-prioritize…But they do owe their customers respect – especially those that have been with them for a long time. If it was reality people would rightly feel burned to not know that it was even in the future…”

Thank you for taking the time to send me comments as I do read all of them, and sent back a response♥ For me today will be spent still opening boxes from Advents and sorting them out in folders ~ hugzz to each of you and remember you are special♥♥

Taken at Backdrop City and Graceful Elegance pose by Image Essentials  

wearing:
Pud’s Very Subtle Bounce Physics
TRUTH / Halona Updo
TRUTH / Bangs
CATWA HEAD Catya v3.2
DeeTaleZ Mesh BEAUTY MOLE
IKON Odyssey Eyes- Nymph
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V4.1
OXIDE Danii Necklace V2 Shop&Hop gift
Vanity Gown Snow ~ group gift
Chop Zuey Willow Love – Engagement Ring
Shape ~ Mine
Skin by Pumec Marcella in May tone ~Cosmo Tuesday special

groups & stuff…

groups N stuff...
Before I begin, I gotta say this post was going to be something else but after a heated discussion, today among a certain group am taking a different approach ~ so strap on this might be bumpy if not controversial ride hehe…what surprises me most is a simple question can turn into attacking that person, intimidating and twisting the entire subject matter to the point the question gets lost ~ the controversy is what is the responsibility of store owners to their group members especially one that is very well known and has a huge membership ~ do you leave them hanging after say 3 months with no notice either before disappearing or after, or do you feel that a store owner it is actually none of anyone’s business why you are not in contact as RL is RL and its private ~ very heated discussion in regards to this as there were lines drawn, opinions thrown out to the fact you don’t like it just leave…since I am taking a moment to give my own thoughts as to this that most store owners do take responsibility to the group members by sending out notices before leaving on extended leave or having their assistant be informed as to what is taking place so he or she can answer group members satisfactory and not let the rumor mill start by thinking the worst that the owner just quit SL ~ again just my thoughts on this ~ wonder what any of you think on this subject ♥  Just a reminder if you have not been to Linden’s huge Shop & Hop it is ending tomorrow and the gifts are amazing ~ everything Dena is wearing is from there and it is all FREE ~ just check out the credits to see which store ~ thank you all for the nice comments and I did want to thank Moz especially for telling me about his Father’s New Year tradition ~ going out the back door and entering the front door ~ thank you Moz ♥ till next time remember to take time for a moment to yourself ♥ hugzz

Shot at Backdrop City using the following props: Di’Cor Simone Wall Painting, A.D.D.Andel! Potted Plant: Fern, {what next} House Plant – Rubber Tree & Eucalyptus, Black Bantam Dog, Yasum*Entrance Shelf ~ advent gift

Dena is wearing:
Shape -Mine
Pud’s Very Subtle Bounce Physics
Blueberry – Sweater Dress-Shop & hop gift
bonbon – Shop & Hop gift
CATWA HEAD Catya v3.2
IKON Hope Eyes- Starfall
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V4.1
Vibing & Nova-Keira Ringset-Shop & hop Gift
[Cynful] Fluff Necklace-Shop & hop Gift
[The Forge] Diva Boots-Shop & hop Gift

am wearing:
Pud’s Very Subtle Bounce Physics
*barberyumyum*bangs
::HH:: Hucci Rehovot Boots- Shop/hop gift
CATWA HEAD Catya v3.2
DeeTaleZ Mesh BEAUTY MOLE
IKON Odyssey Eyes- Nymph
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V4.1
NO.MATCH_NO.CHAINS. *pressie
Seniha. Stevy Dress ~ group gift
Seniha. Stevy Shirt
Chop Zuey Willow Love – Engagment Ring
[Cynful] Fluff Necklace-Shop/hop gift
Shape ~ Mine

Gifts galore…

Gifts
As you see me in the above image everything am wearing is FREE ~ oh yes, top to bottom and it is all from the Linden’s Shop & Hop event, where over 100 Designer stores have graciously put out a gift for everyone to grab…will give you a closer look at my face and that gorgeous clock from Fancy Decor ~

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Course there are exceptions as the skin am wearing is not free nor my eyes but yes the hair is from bonbon that has a variety of colors for you along with you can also change the color of the little candies too…the winter blush is from MICHAN, which I did not tone it down so you could see exactly how it looks on ~ makes you look like you just came in from the cold as you stand by the fire to warm up…did you see the cute stars am wearing on my ears as they are from NamiiChu also coming with a hud plus you get your choice of either wearing animated or not since they do twinkle…that gorgeous necklace from [Cynful] is just the right necklace to set off the sweater dress from Blueberry…oh yes you heard right that Blueberry is participating with the free gifts as well ~ that is why I just love this event as each designer really goes overboard with their gifts♥  To my left is the gift from Fancy Decor that is a silver Carriage Clock that I will admit to you that I did modify it a tad so you could just see how beautiful it is…lastly are the overtheknee boots from Hucci that yes are a gift as well♥ Now can you see why I love when Linden puts on these events ~ the number of gifts are overwhelming yet you will never hear me complain about too many of them hehehe…also if I forgot to mention if you are still looking for more gifts you should TP over to the +++Versus+++ Event  as they have also a lot of gifts that I will be giving you a peek at ♥ with Versus you will have to join the group and the group fee is only 50L and the amount of quality gifts is way beyond that…there you are 2 events with gifts galore that am still opening boxes and sorting inventory out ~ till next time remember to be kind to yourself ♥♥ hugzz

shot inside my home using Bauhaus Movement ~ Cosplay that is also a Shop&Hop gift…

wearing:
Pud’s Very Subtle Bounce Physics
::HH:: Hucci Rehovot Boots – CandyCane Shop&HopGift
Blueberry – Sweater Dress – Loose Fit Shop&HopGift
bonbon – bon hair Shop&HopGift
CATWA HEAD Catya v3.2
DeeTaleZ Mesh BEAUTY MOLE
IKON Odyssey Eyes- Nymph
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V4.1
NamiiChu ~ Silver Twinklies Shop&HopGift
Chop Zuey ~Willow Love – Engagement Ring – 
[Cynful] Fluff Necklace – Shop&HopGift

thoughts…

Thoughts
Sitting here on my steps thinking the year is almost over and how many changes took place ~ ending an SL relationship, changing the blog, reconnecting with someone very special and finding that some things never change like my inventory that is filled with unopened boxes from the Shop & Hop event that Linden has put on ~ if you have not made it yet I urge you don’t procrastinate and not go ~ there are 5 sims Aurelian, Gilded, Golden, Halycon, and Tinseled with gifts from over 100 Designer stores like Apple Fall, Blueberry, Fancy Decor, Salt & Pepper, What Next, and yes various stores just for the men as well with gifts in every store ~ as well they are cutting their prices drastically to entice you♥  Over the next couple days will be showing some of the gifts that I got from this event ~ so I better get my butt to open all those boxes that I have piled up in the living room LOL ~ ooops forgot about what am wearing to tell you it was a Marketplace find that includes the outfit, shoes, belly gems, ankle bracelet ~ till next time please take time for yourself to breathe ♥♥ hugzz

shot at my home using Artis Sit on the Beach pose surrounded the Cubic Republic’s Shop&Hop gift of Potted Cyclamen Pink, Magenta, Red, White.

wearing:
Pud’s Very Subtle Bounce Physics
!CGF- Leather & Silver Star Anklet
!CGF-Low Cut Teal Denim-Maitreya
!CGF-Silver/Amber Belly Piercing
!CGF-Tan/Teal HALF TIP TOE Bow Sneaker
!CGF-Teal Brat SWEATSHIRT-
CATWA HEAD Catya v3.2
DeeTaleZ Mesh BEAUTY MOLE
IKON Odyssey Eyes- Nymph
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V4.1
MICHAN – Celine Circlet Shop&Hop GIFT
NamiiChu ~ Silver Twinklies Shop&Hop Gift
TRUTH / Joy ~ Group Gift

 

am baaaack…

Back
Yes after a week of dog sitting I am finally back in SL ~ needed to come back because am exhausted hehehe ~ kind of got carried away by taking on too many dogs at one time as I did have to walk back and forth to 3 separate houses truly wore me out ~ good thing is a little bit richer that will go into my savings and I made my goal for steps each day…now just have to work on sorting out all my gifts from advents ~ there is still a huge one from Linden the Shop & Hop that is ongoing till January 4th ~ there are over 100 Merchants participating in this with each store giving a gift along with some super discounts for items ~ 5 different sims filled with designers that are cutting prices drastically…this is the time to gather your Lindens and go shopping ♥ Best way to shop is “show friends only” as that clears everyone except your friends and does help out on the lag ~ last night EST time the sims were amazingly lagless if that is a word LOL…thats it for me today as I am gonna spend the rest of the day wading through my inventory as it truly has exploded BUT before I leave I gotta say huge thank you’s to Brutus for giving me some awesome pressies ♥♥ cya soon

Shot at my home using {what next} pose/prop Butterfly Photography Chair

wearing:
Pud’s Very Subtle Bounce Physics
CATWA HEAD Catya v3.2
DeeTaleZ Mesh BEAUTY MOLE
IKON Odyssey Eyes – Nymph
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V4.1
NO.MATCH_NO.PROBLEM.
SynCo – Astraea Necklace – Rose
Chop Zuey Willow Love – Engagment Ring
[HU] Julianne Thigh Boots_white wool
[PPD]Remember My Name – Knit Dress

know what…

KnowWhat
I gotta laugh when some say SL and RL are not the same ~ cuz you know what I think at times that it is exactly like RL where you have cliques, mean girls who ignore you in group chats and make anonymous posts about you…guess I should be standing on a soapbox while doing this instead of sitting with my cutesy reindeer…some things never change in 10 years that I have been a resident of SL ~ except thinking people have gotten bolder, more judgmental, and  meaner ~ cripes I get tired of asking questions in groups and not being answered or because someone asks a stupid question and gets a stupid answer from another someone lets all jump on that person when the answer was funny…okay will stop now because first it is getting closer to Christmas and am seriously trying to be more understanding and have more compassion for those type of people that seem to think they are better than others and take it upon themselves to say hurtful things…Let me instead talk about this past weekend with the Monthly Midnight Madness gifts ~ my outfit that I was able to get both Midnight & Noon came from Pink Cream Pie that fit my Maitreya body perfectly and looks very winterish ~ The cute pose/prop from Lil’Bug is a past Gimme Gacha pressie…that’s it for me today and to my friends and supporters of my blog you truly make me smile and I am thankful for each one of you ~ hugzz ♥♥

wearing:
Pud’s Very Subtle Bounce Physics
CATWA HEAD Catya v3.2
DeeTaleZ Mesh BEAUTY MOLE
IKON Odyssey Eyes- Nymph
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V4.1
Monica Boots :: Maitreya :: Pink Cream Pie
Monica Dress :: Maitreya :: Pink Cream Pie
TRUTH HAIR May
^^Swallow^^ Magic Pixie Ears

thoughts…

Matching

Some may think its corny or way too not chic yet for me I do think its sweet when at times you wear matching tops ~ oh am not speaking about a daily or even a weekly thing ~ no that gets to be a tad creepy in my eyes seeing adults always dressed alike ~ the sweaters are from The Arcade by Bleich ♥  oh looking for more gifts head over there and in the middle there is a huge Christmas tree that you can see underneath a lot of gifts ~ still sorting stuff from all the Advents and group gifts ~ speaking of gifts for those that are members of Calas Ty and Truck have the rather fabulous scarves that you see wrapped around our neck as gifts this year…Little Frenchie is a past gift and is still out at the Pavilion for those looking for a cute pet…I am still curious about your thoughts if you think matching holiday sweaters are just creepy or they are alright in moderation…RL is screaming as today is my appointment with a surgeon nothing major ~ before I head out I wanted to comment on the nice remarks that have been getting on my blog posts ~ thank you so much for those as they do mean a lot to me ♥♥ till next time as it gets closer and closer to the big day take time out for yourself ~ enjoy a moment of peace, sip on your favorite drink whether hot, cold, alcoholic or not hehehe…

This was shot at our home using the Glamrus Pose White Christmas that am not sure exactly when or where I got it but they are now only on Marketplace.

wearing:

Brutus

3D MESHiah-Christmas hat
A&D Clothing – Pants -Austin-
Bleich – Xmas ’89 Ugly Sweater *TheArcade
CATWA HEAD Daniel v3.2
SIG GIANNI CHELSEA Boots
Stealthic – Like Lust
[CG2018] Mens Winter Scarf
[Signature] Gianni Body – Body – v4.6
-NIVARO- Skin – 04. Lion Tone

Wearing
Pud’s Very Subtle Bounce Physics
Beloved Jewelry : Snowflake Necklace/POE gift
Bleich – Xmas ’89 Ugly Sweater – Snow
CATWA HEAD Catya v3.2
DeeTaleZ Mesh BEAUTY MOLE
IKON Odyssey Eyes- Nymph
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V4.1
SAVIN – CAMI LEATHER SKIRT – GREEN –
TRUTH / Athena
Chop Zuey Willow Love – Engagment Ring
[CG2018] Ladies Tintable Winter Scarf
^^Swallow^^ Magic Pixie Ears Left